MUMS and dads who use grandparents as babysitters are being advised to strike formal childcare agreements to avoid family meltdowns caused by lax discipline and standards.
Child experts say parenting techniques have changed so much over the decades that drawing up an official list of instructions and routines is necessary to ease parents’ fears and remove conflict.
Gold Coast midwife and baby sleep expert Amanda Bude says she comes across parents who worry that grandma will not adhere to sleep guidelines or that the child will be overheated.
“Instructions can bring peace of mind,” she said.
Naturally, that begs the question: Can you be addicted to having children?
Amanda Bude, midwife at Groovy Babies, certainly thinks you can feel that way about giving birth.
“With positive birth experiences I’ve had many families say they could give birth over and over again – myself included.”
Among all these changes, you may wonder what happens to your periods after giving birth. Do they differ too?
Firstly, it can take ages for your first period to come back after giving birth.
In fact, if you’re breastfeeding exclusively, it could take six months or more before your period comes back, says midwife Amanda Bude from Groovy Babies. If you’re breastfeeding exclusively and drop down to two or three feeds every 24 hours, she says your periods may start again.
So, can a simple change in name really empower women? And should we start referring to C-sections in this way?
Midwife Amanda Bude from Groovy Babies thinks this is a great idea.
“Obviously positive language has a massive impact on reducing or removing fear and anxiety towards any birth. That in itself empowers any mum-to- be.”
She says many mothers feel that having a C-section is “robbing” them of having had a vaginal birth. “But I believe if a mum has a positive birth experience, supportive care provider, and educated birth preparation, then they are less likely to feel shame and disappointment about how their baby arrived.”
And, she says, a simple change in name can help aid that positive birth experience.
QUEENSLAND midwives have called time on medics using condescending and frightening language during childbirth.
Maternity advocates say there is no place in today’s society for using the words “my woman”, or “good girl” or “failure to progress”.
Contractions should be described as “strong” not “painful” and a “big baby” should be called a “healthy baby”.
All language must be empowering and uplifting for the mother.
Gold Coast midwife Amanda Bude told The Courier-Mail language surrounding birth needed an overhaul with all care providers.
“A successful birth outcome starts when a woman is respected,” she said.
“Just look at birth trauma rates – one third of women describe their birth as traumatic.”
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Evidence-based research over the generations has found that old-fashioned practices, such as babies sleeping on their tummies, cots filled with quilts and pillows and even feeding a baby boiled water, can be risky.
Accredited baby sleep consultant Amanda Bude told The Courier-Mail that parents were often worried when their tots slept at their grandparents’ house in case modern recommendations were not adhered to.
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AUSTRALIAN taxpayers are subsidising parents who can’t get their children to sleep by over $5 million per year.
A surge in sleep-deprived parents seeking professional baby sleep experts has meant a doubling in Medicare rebates for the services in the last 10 years.
Up to 40 per cent of babies and children struggle with sleep, which means that in Queensland each year 140,000 sets of parents are living with exhaustion.
But not all sleep experts are the same. Baby sleep trainers are not the same as qualified sleep specialists.
Ms Bude is adamant that there is no place for closing a door and letting the child cry it out.
“Baby sleep trainers may try and ‘fix’ a child with a one size fits all approach like controlled crying and responsive settling. There is a perception that the child is ‘broken’.
“A sleep specialist will assess the environmental, physical, emotional, social, developmental, psychological and medical areas of the family to see what might be underlying reasons for sleep and circadian rhythm disturbances,” said Ms Bude, who is also a midwife.
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Groovy Babies founder Amanda Bude is one of Australia’s most highly qualified baby & child specialist specialising in baby & child sleep, HypnoBirthing® The Mongan Method, infant massage, attachment parenting and a range of holistic parenting strategies.
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